This essay is actually going to be primarily about who we should marry. The Bible never says anything about this, except for two basic principles. One: make sure that this is God’s will for your life. Marriage means that you hope to spend your life with someone. Second, which goes along with the first, you should not marry an unbeliever. 1 Corinthians 7 deals with marriage issues, and gives commands that help us decide our partner. Some of the commands include not marrying someone outside the faith, not divorcing your spouse, and if you find yourself in a situation where you have lost your spouse, do not marry again, unless it is to that person.
in 1 Corinthians 7, Paul states what he thinks is the best reason for marriage. He says that people should be married if they can not withstand the temptation to immorality of a…..private nature.
First, let’s look at the reasons for abstaining from marriage with a non-Christian. The biggest reason is about principles. You should be marrying somebody who you can accept as they are, but we can’t do that with unbelievers, as we can’t accept the fact that the person we love enough to marry is going to be eternally separated from us and God. Another reason is that the family is supposed to be one unit. No unit that is truly one can pull in different directions and be anything like it is supposed to be. Take a government, for example. Ours is sufficiently split to render it incapable of ever reaching a completely correct decision, when the government is supposed to be the final authority on everything. The same goes for the family.
God intended the family to be a stronghold of stability, even when the world is in turmoil. In times of war, this seems to work surprisingly well. Well, not so surprisingly when you consider who made it. However, it is in times of peace, when we have been lulled to sleep, that Satan comes and infiltrates the heart. He seeks to divide the family, because he has already divided everything else. The church, the government, the world; everything is divided against itself. If he can make the family the same way, then the closest tie with each other, that of hearth and home, will be snapped.
Divorce is a big one today. I’m sure that at one time or another we’ve all heard the statistics on divorce. Nearly half of today’s marriages end in divorce. And Christian marriages are almost as bad! Obviously, something has been missed by the Church. I think it is quite simple. Today’s popular pastors often preach a feel-good sermon to their congregations, one that everyone can be happy about. Therefore, in order to keep the members of a divorced household (and their large offering check) in the church, they conveniently forget the Bible’s words on divorce, and emphasize the assurance of heaven to all believers. Depending on the preacher, to all unbelievers as well. If only people would look to see what God’s word says.
If you married a non-Christian, divorce is never the answer. However, if your spouse chases that option until it becomes a reality, Paul has a quick, easy answer. Don’t marry again, except to that person. And usually, that will mean that you don’t marry again. Paul’s letter to the Christians in Corinth emphasized that point. He believed that it was best for a Christian to remain unmarried, but if you felt strongly enough about somebody, then stay with them. Don’t divorce, and then immediately go traipsing off to your next spouse.
This was one of my essays where whatever fire may be in me made its way to my fingers on the keyboard, so if I offended you, I apologize. On that note, I bid you good day. At least until my schoolwork throws another essay at me!